You are each other's strength

Someone asked what 360 degree love is. It means a male/female couple doing it all.

Communicating. They tell each other what they find hot and what they want to do. Just because she whips his ass and fucks him hard, that's no reason he can't slam her pussy, fuck her mouth, jerk off while she sucks his balls.

It means neither needs to be consistently submissive or dominant, that both can experiment and experience without worrying about whether it will work or not. Who cares? Just try it.

And pushing things beyond certain pain thresholds... There's something to be said for that. You discover your own and each other's limits and maybe push those limits further and further. Besides, a good asswhipping, followed by a hot ass fucking is such a great way to relieve stress, anxiety, panic attacks and all those other annoying life hassles that wear you both down.

The main thing to remember is you're in this together. You are each other's strength. And you know what? The rest of the world has no place in your privacy. They can all go fuck themselves. None of that is your problem. You're too busy making each other deeper, hotter and more willing.

Our favorite anal hook and it's special little trick means giving her a +++ blow job!

Who doesn't like anal hooks? What's not to like about them?

After checking out a wide variety of hooks, our team of six "testers" agreed that the TAIL GATER is the champ.

Aside from being made of medical-grade stainless steel and using a hook angle that snuggly fits pretty much any bottom, there is the little trick designers used to make the Tail Gater the winner.

Look at the photo. Near the bottom, just where the hook turns up, there is a small ring. It's a genius bit of design.

 Anal hooks look great but one of the practical problems that many users have complained about is that the ball on the end tends to slide around and sometimes even slip right out. Boo!

So the Tail Gater's  designers added the little ring you see at the bottom. This allows a cord to be used to secure the hook in place so it won't go anywhere. Great idea! And a little more tying up and binding is always welcome too!

Having rings at the top of the anal hook and at the bottom allows for a wide variety of possibilities. For example, a cord can go through the bottom ring to bind the guy's cock and balls and then continue up to meet the cord that comes from the ring at the top of the anal hook, then wraps around his neck and both cords are finally gathered in the fist of the girl so she can control his movement while he gives her a blow job.

Now she would have SERIOUS control of him while he goes down on her hard cock.

The Tail Gater is also on sale right now so if you've got a itch that only an anal hook can scratch, this is the one!

Is there a "normal" pegging position?

A funny question is what's the "normal" position when a woman sodomizes her man. Is it the standard her between his legs? Or since it's ass fucking, how about her behind him? Then there's him on top, straddling her or sitting in her lap.

The sitting in her lap position, if done right, can also allow her to suck his cock while penetrating him. Sure, his cock size has something to do with it but also needs a sense of rhythm and movement.

If the dildo has a head, like a real cock, it can be super stimulating for the guy to balance on the head, stretched open while she sucks his cock. It requires he have some discipline since the urge is to just slide down all the way down onto her cock and feel it stroke his prostate.

One variation on the doggie style is him on his knees, a leash around his neck as she stands behind him, her cock kind of hooking him. If she pulls upward, that stretches him length wise and her hand yanking down on the leash keeps him from being able to rise enough to get himself off her cock.

Of course she can just tie him up, immobilize him and then do whatever the hell she wants. Even getting into double penetration. For a tight ass that can be pretty daunting, stretched open so much. But in time that can become irresistible. Like they say, how to you get to Carnegie Hall?

Then we have the stainless steel hook with a cord attached to the end. It's a great way to control him giving her a blow job. I think it's been mentioned before in this blog, probably because it's such a favorite. She gets that ball on the end of the hook into him, runs the cord up his back, wraps it around his neck once and then wraps it round her fist. This way she can control his movement while he's going down her. Just when he begins to gag and can't take any more cock, she can yank on the cord and drive her hardon all the way into his throat, gagging or no gagging.

Be prepared for possible vomiting at this point. Which is why it's a good idea for the guy not to eat beforehand. Women into pegging have said it's all worth it because there's very little that looks as hot as seeing all of their big cock jammed down the guy's throat, every last bit of it.

Women have said they cum rockets just seeing him struggle and panic, face jammed full of her cock, his lips against her strap and unable to pull off, the cord choking him, the stainless steel hook straining at his ass.

It really is one helluva gift they both can cherish.

Pegging and the law

Don't you just love this sign? Or how about signs advising of a place being a "Pegging Free Zone."

After all, you could be breaking the law in some locales. Texas has arcane laws like not being allowed to own more than 6 dildos.

And don't get caught trying to enter Thailand with a dildo. You could be barred, or humiliated in the airport line up where officers have been known to wave around the offending object while berating the owner.

In Saudi Arabia, sex toys are deemed a moral perversion and deeply offensive in that a woman could ever consider a dildo as a replacement for a man's cock. How dare she!

But don't you get the feeling all this condemnation is one of those "doth protest too much" scenarios? Who exactly are these types of laws and customs protecting? Religious texts consider all forms of sodomy to be an abomination, an unnatural act. The city of Sodom got trashed by God because its inhabitants had a special affection for the act.

And I have to believe that whoever supports such laws must be even the tiniest bit curious. Wouldn't they ask themselves, What's all the fuss about? Hmmm...

I guess it's the Fun Factor. So much in this control freak world is instantly deemed a crime when it involves widespread fun and enjoyment.



 



 

She asked if he's gay and messed things up. What would you do?

I recently read a post about a woman who didn't handle her guy's initial effort to tell her that he's into pegging. She asked him if he was gay. Oops. Okay, maybe she's completely new to the idea but still, not a smart move. Now she regrets her reaction and is trying to bring him back around to let her try.

But he's clammed up, won't talk about it, told her it's okay, no need bla bla and maybe they need a break from sex.
But... they've been going out for less than 6 months.

In a relationship that new, saying maybe a break from sex would be a good idea, well... let's face it, that's not good. In fact, it's most likely a way of saying "it's over."

The woman who wrote the post is full of grief now, begging for answers, how to deal with this, how to save the relationship. It's a tough one. Maybe the guy is gay. Maybe not. Maybe he's just not into revealing that part of himself to her. It seems trust was broken when she mishandled things at the beginning.

What would you do if you were her? Would you accept what seems to be the inevitable? Would you keep trying? Should the guy give her another chance?

How To Fuck Your Psychiatrist

And here's a pegging excerpt from a novel you may be interested in. It's available in ebook or print. Or click on the cover pic. 
Enjoy...

SLIDE

Ren’s on her back, has me by the cock like a stick shift. She tries to coax me onto her purple strap-on. It’s the L shaped kind. The short part’s a bit curved and hooks under her pubic bone, a real G-spot stroker. Her smile glows, eyes full of brilliant mischief.

“C’mon, baby,” she teases, so honeyed. “Slide...”

“I was supposed to do this with my doctor’s assistant.”

“Let her get in line,” Ren says, earthy and sweet, keeping at it as I feel her cock push and lift me very slow. She pokes and prods, gets me poised on the head. “You’re so tight.”

The scent of her pussy’s salt rises strong. I can taste her. “Kegels,” I say.

Her smile is hungry, luscious. “I love fucking my girl.”

“I’m your girl?”

“Right now you are.”

“And you’re my boy?”

“Right now I am.”

Her voice alone is gonna make me cum. I twist on her cock as she raises her hips into my rhythm. I feel the head spread me open, come in. Ren draws me downward. “Ow... fuck,” I frown and chuckle. “It kinda hurts.”

Ren takes a deep breath, swallows hard. “Oooof, I’m gonna piss myself. You always look so good impaled on me.”

She sits up and takes me by the hips, by the ass, fills me further, patient and strong. All my weight drives me onto her. She takes my breast in her mouth, rocks me in the cradle of her lap. My eyes pop. “Jesus… You’re really fucking the shit out of me.”
I feel between us, always astounded. “Man, that’s a lotta cock.”

She digs her power, rolls it on her tongue, has me skewered, the pressure is a burning ache. Her hands are full of my ass, finger tips at my asshole pulling me further open. My cock throbs against her stomach as I grab handfuls of her hair, side of her face on my chest, she murmurs encouragement while rocking us. The final run hits and everything is everything. This is what trust is for. I clench onto her. She jacks me off.

“You’re there,” Ren moors me. “That’s it. You’re pulling against my g-spot every time I bring you deep. Yeah, like that...” She uses our rhythm on herself.

“It’s close,” I strain. “My balls are gonna… fucking… uh...” A long belly laugh finally breaks from my throat and pours all over us. I’m never sure I can cum till I’m cumming. My guts grip and contract, molten melted eruption of sugar heat between us.

Ren lifts herself forward and all in one deft motion, spreads her legs and gets me on my back like somekinda fuck judo. I’m still gasping as she pushes my knees up. She slams, determined, cock pounds against her own fiery nerve.

“Wait wait,” I struggle. “Lemme—”

“Shut up a minute.”

I’m weak from cumming so hard, her weight makes my spread out hips ache. She sits up, my ass now just a tight hole to leverage her cock’s pressure on her spot. She grabs my hard-on, uses it pull me onto her. I’m post cum touchy. It’s too much, try to get her hands off me.

“Hang on a second. Don’t─”

Ren doesn’t listen, sweaty and irritated, bangin the ass off me, her claws in my shoulder so I don’t slip away. I think about pushing her off but let her go and go.

“Hurry up, you’re hurting me─like for real.” My asshole scalds with her pounding friction. Shoulda used more oil.

She seethes and bitches. “Do something. Make me cum for fucksakes.”

I lock my ankles around her ass, lift myself up to her and her body finally stiffens, pussy gushing around her cock. Her cum runs down all over my ass, into my ass, trickles to my tailbone. She laughs and hoots, legs and body stretched taut. I finally shove her downward and get her out of me...

Girl with cock... so feminine...

Look what baby's got for you...

It is a common assumption that when a woman is fucking a man, he is "submitting", that he's being her bitch. The whole Dom and Sub thing.
I guess that's why those who felt uncomfortable with that idea came up with the term "power bottom."

Does it matter? Is it even relevant to anyone who's not one of the two people fucking or getting fucked?

Should I stop and think, hm... am I "submitting" to her when she pushes me down onto my face and fucks my ass?  Would I feel better if I consider myself a "power bottom"?

Does "power bottom" mean I'm allowing her to fuck me rather than "submitting" to her?
Does that make our fucking more equitable somehow, more of a politically acceptable act? And most of all, do we care?

Cocksucking our way to true love

When she gets real deep down his throat, he feels her tense and groan, the tide rising, the strong scent of her wetness.

She loves to make him gag and struggle, deep throating him. It's a powerful sense of freedom, her cock fucking his mouth and throat. What's not to love? She leans forward and gets right over him open mouth, slamming.

She cums hard and gushes around her strap, the cum running down his cheeks and along her cock and into his mouth. Her cum tastes strong, salty. He cums with a sudden spasm.

He turns around and begs for a good fucking. She teases him with the head of her hard-on, slowly working the head into his tight ass, sliding in deep and loving.

All her life she'd known something in her wasn't being fulfilled. Guys grunting as they fucked her pussy and once in a while her ass. It all felt distant and kind of disappointing. This is what all the fuss was about?

It took a while to get over her fear of fucking her guy. She didn't even know why it scared her. Maybe just admitting this part of her existed, needed to live. Once they got there they fell in love in a whole new way, moving toward a real life, not living behind glass. They fucked their way around the entire sphere of what's truly in their hearts, 360 Degree Love...

A journey to Pegging Land

I got persmission to post a little intro from a M/F couple of my acquaintance and how they got to Pegging Land. It's a bit of a rough draft but I think it gets the message across.

"My wife had lived a pretty vanilla life till we met almost 4 years ago. Our early sex was a bit kinked, which was a nice first step, but there was something missing for her. She couldn't name it but her alpha type nature was being frustrated. We seesawed back and forth about pegging. She wasn't sure and it caused some arguments.

I'd been a pegging aficionado for a long time so I through oh, fuck this, and went over there with a strap-on one afternoon and things just fell into place. She tried it on and walked around, kind of grinning at her big cock and looking so lusciously hot in her lacy bra and garter. First time there wasn't any long drawn out foreplay. I just pushed her onto her back and sat on her. Took about 5 seconds for her to take charge. She wanted me turned around, to get a good look at her cock fucking me. She grabbed onto my hips and dictated the rhythm, pulling me down onto all of her big cock harder and harder.

It made her kind of nuts, telling me the strap was pushing onto her clit every time she pulled me down all the way. We were slamming away when I felt her convulse and let out a wild JEEZUS-FUCKIN-CHRIST-I'M-COMING-ROCKETS! type shriek. It was all over in 10 minutes or so. You know how that is, all that sexual tension and frustration built up, you both blow your load in no time then go for slower, more evolved seconds.

That hot fucking changed everything in our relationship. She got to express her maleness and I my femaleness without any judgement. And truth be told, the fact we're in love makes the whole experience so hot you want to just melt. So yes, there are men in the world whose preference is being fucked by a woman and there are women in the world that get off like nothing else on fucking their guy. Actually, my wife told me that if she had to choose fucking or being fucked, being the fucker wins hands down. In public we appear conventional, playing our male and female roles. It's easier that way."

All that pegs well ends well...
 For couples who want to explore further, there are some fun toys and devices. One of my faves is a long stainless steel asshook with a ball on the end and a ring where you can attach a scarlet cord. While the guy is sucking his girl's cock, she can control his rhythm by pulling on the cord that runs up his back.To take things to another level, there's something called sounding, those stainless steel devices that insert into a man's urethra.

Plenty of women love fucking their guy after putting a sounder down his cock hole, in total control of his body. The level of intimacy is so intense it's a revelation. If you're into adventure, definitely worth a try.

The Land of Big Heat

There's this idea that a man who enjoys being sodomized by his female partner is just avoiding the fact he's actually gay and having a woman fuck him allows him to maintain separation from defining himself as gay.

Sure, that's possible. But let's look at it as something specific. Being sodomized by a woman wearing a strap-on can be a desire on its own. She isn't filling in for real cock. He doesn't want her fucking him because he's "afraid" to admit to himself he is in fact gay. He wants her fucking him because it's her fucking him.

So what about being in love? An act of love. It turns their fucking into something else entirely, an expression of value. How she wouldn't stick her cock in another guy because she and her man are bound by love. 
And really, love - being in love is the most powerful aphrodisiac.

Think about it. How different is it when you're deeply in love with him or her? How much stronger does it all feel? Physically, emotionally, it's a kind of pure liberation. You are both free to show your most intimate selves to one another, without fear of judgement. So yeah, there's nothing hotter than the love fuck.

But if it's not an exclusive relationship that doesn't mean there isn't emotional depth. Sure, you can say it's just a piece of rubber or latex that's strapped to her body.

But it's more. A woman I know said she feels a sense of power and responsibility when she looks down at her cock deep inside her man. She's trembles with pleasure. A leash is wrapped around her cock, the steel against his ass every time she slides all the way in, stretching him, opening him up.

The sight of that, his surrender, his begging for all of her inside him, it can be more than "play." It can be real meaning. It can be an act that gives each of them more of each other and more of themselves. They go round the entire 360 degrees of identity.

When he sucks her cock, you can again say, sure, it's just a fake cock in his mouth, down his throat. So why does she feel it so deeply, why does it make her gush and cum so easily?

Perhaps it's because the act shows them both they are free to give and receive from one another, to move beyond expectations and into real desire. In other words, he looks so fucking beautiful to her eyes when he's going down on her as she strokes his face, his neck, heat rising in her when she hears him gag on her cock, getting her off in waves of luscious heat.

So they aren't static or easily defined. They're moving, they're exploring and they're headed into the land of big heat.

WHAT ABOUT "SOUNDING"?

How deep is deep?

This is when an object is inserted in a man's urethra. Yeah, his cock hole. It's a fairly popular fetish judging from the number and various styles of "sounders" available.

If you're thinking of trying this, obviously you'll need to be careful. It's very easy to scratch the very delicate tissue in the urethra and cause some bleeding and pain.

Some couples say they get a lot of pleasure from doing it together and it's erotic as hell. The first time a guy feels the sounder slowly sliding deeper is a revelation. Try it and you'll see what I mean.

The ideal situation is when the woman can smoothly insert the sounder before fucking her guy. There are hollow sounders that allow the guy to cum without removing the device. Some women say they derive a great deal of satisfaction by being in total control of their guy's cock and his ass, all of him in her hands.

And that's really about the most powerful of aphrodisiacs - trust. The union of his trust and her power can help address a fundamental gender imbalance.

Our friends at The Stockroom have a good selection of various sounders, both solid and hollow. Just be careful, take your time and sounding can add a whole new dimension to your intimacy.

Review: How's the Feeldoe feel?

There's been a lot of debate about the Feeldoe, the strapless strap-on. The idea is the woman puts the egg shaped end inside her and her pussy hangs onto it while having fun with her guy or girl.
It's a great idea but there have been a lot of buts (yes, pun intended).
A woman would need to have powerhouse Kegels for her pussy to maintain a grip on this thing if getting down to even mildly active action.
But all is not lost. It's still a great toy if you use a strap that accommodates that egg-shaped end. Okay, it's no longer a strapless strap-on but if a woman wants some penetration while penetrating, the Feeldoe definitely does the trick. It also comes with a mini-vibrator insert if you want some extra stims.

But there is the school of thought that insists they don't want anything in them while they're driving. Some say it's distracting, too much going on.

Overall, the Feeldoe has gotten some 5-star reviews from early adapters and newbies alike and many now swear by it. There's only one way to know your own preference. Take the Feeldoe for a spin. Not that pricey considering it's such a great way to expand your horizons!

"He took his sweet time drawing shapes on me with my black eyeliner pencil. He then took a silver snake from around his neck and laid it across my hip and down the slit of my low mileage pussy. He told me not to move, not at all. I felt feverish and began to drip..."

Seeing oneself

Medusa is a creature from Greek mythology that would turn men to stone the moment they looked at her. She was said to be monstrous, her hair a tangle of hissing snakes.
Perseus slayed Medusa by using a polished shield as a mirror to strike his decapitating blow. Hence the famous image of Perseus holding up the head of Medusa.
In some ancient tellings, Medusa was a beautiful maiden who was made monstrous after being raped by sea god Poseidon within the goddess Athena's temple.

Freedom's just another word for living your dreams...

There can be freedom for all. Don't fear freedom. She'll make you more of a man as she becomes more of a woman, the two of you more complete. Hanging onto your fear, defining it as truth, that won't help you in the end. If love is trust, and trust is freedom, you are free to let go of your fear.